THE STRATEGY RESET
A fair property settlement starts when you take control of the process
Get clear on what matters, organise your numbers and build a negotiation plan that breaks the cycle of back-and-forth drama and expensive guesswork so you can protect your financial future.
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This is for you
You're a capable, conscientious parent trying to do the right thing. You want to be fair, reasonable and kind.
You want a settlement that protects your future.
You don't want to fight. But you also don't want to agree to something that doesn't sit right, just to keep the peace.
Maybe you've tried talking it through at home, around the kitchen table, over text, in the car. Nothing moves, but the pressure keeps building. Your sister keeps saying, "Just get a lawyer" and the mortgage is due, but you're not sure who's paying it.
Your ex has started making suggestions. You can't tell if they're reasonable or self-serving. Your contributions are being minimised and it feels deeply unfair.
And in the back of your mind is the fear: What if I miss something important and this is the only chance I get? What if by agreeing to something just to get it done...I regret it later?
You want to move this forward. Properly. You just need a way to do it without burning money on endless legal letters or finding yourself in conversations feeling unprepared or outmatched.
You don't have to hand your future over to your ex. And you don't have to outsource your judgment.
The real problem is not
that you are “not good with numbers”,
too emotional, too cautious
or overthinking it.
It’s that you’ve heard you have to:
"Wait until you feel ready." But the pressure doesn't wait and neither do the mortgage repayments.
"Just be reasonable and it will work out." But reasonable without a plan means you agree to things you regret later.
"Gather everything perfectly before you take the next step." So you freeze, put the need to find a valuer on the to-do list and get on with doing everything else in your life.
"Go straight to a lawyer" or have those big conversations at home and hope you'll "figure it out in the moment" when emotions are highest.
You do not get a fair, workable settlement
by making do with
incomplete information, trying harder or reacting faster.
You get it by creating structure first:
- A clear picture of what matters to you,
- A sensible range of options you can test,
- Calm language you can use under pressure,
- A plan that gets you moving in the direction that's been designed by you, not someone else.
"But shouldn't I just see a lawyer?"
Your sister is right, you will need to see a lawyer at some point.
But here's what most people don't realise until much later:
You'll get better value from that lawyer if you walk in prepared.
If you book a lawyer now without doing this work first, you'll spend the first 2-3 appointments gathering information, explaining your situation and figuring out what questions to ask.
The Strategy Reset does that groundwork for you for a fraction of the cost. So when you do see a lawyer, you spend less time on admin and more on strategic advice.
A lawyer consult is best when you need:
Legal advice on your rights, risks and court options.
Urgent protection for safety concerns, asset-freezing or hard deadlines.
Formal letters, filings or representation.
The Strategy Reset is best when you need:
To organise your numbers and documents first.
To work out what "fair" needs to look like for your situation and hopes for your future.
To walk into legal advice and use it efficiently with clear questions and priorities.
To communicate and negotiate directly without escalating to lawyers yet.
How they work together:
Many people do The Strategy Reset first, then see a lawyer with a clearer brief. You'll spend less time (and money) on having them do your admin and more on smart legal strategy.
If you need a lawyer at any time, I have a great network of smart, kind lawyers who want to see you do well without aggravating your situation.
The Strategy Reset works because it focuses on what actually matters at this stage
Structure over overwhelm
When you've separated, it can feel like everything needs a decision at once. There's advice everywhere. So many opinions. "You should..." voices, but none of them live your life.
What is called overwhelm is often too many moving parts, no sequence and no clear way to assess what matters most at each point.
The Strategy Reset replaces the mental pile with a structure of what matters most, what exists, what fair could look like, with options to test and what happens next. With steps in the right order.
You stop trying to hold the whole situation in your head and you start moving with your plan you can trust.
Preparation instead of confrontation
At this stage, the goal isn't to "win". It's to stop being pushed into decisions you're not ready for and to negotiate from clarity instead of pressure.
Most property settlement conversations go sideways for one simple reason: people start negotiating before they've properly prepared. So they're guessing at numbers, agreeing too early, or arguing about positions instead of working from facts and options.
Preparation changes the tone of the conversation because it gives you anchors, clean questions, options so you're not cornered, and language for pushing back without inflaming everything.
Calm authority
You don't need to become harder. Calm authority is what it looks like when you know your numbers well enough to speak without wavering, understand what you're agreeing to, can slow the conversation down when it's being rushed and can hold a boundary.
The Strategy Reset is designed to help you find that voice so you can negotiate with dignity and protect what matters most.
INTRODUCING
THE STRATEGY RESET
To help you make good strategic decisions and negotiate fairly without losing your confidence, your precious time, or your sense of self.
The Strategy Reset is focused, structured work with the support you need to use it
What we'll do together:
Your 90-minute Strategy Reset Private Session
This is structured, practical work where we turn the noise into a plan. You're meeting with me online and you book it at a time that suits you during the day or evening.
IN YOUR STRATEGY RESET, WE WILL:
- Understand the environment in which you're operating. What's been discussed, what's being pushed and what's actually at stake, to stop you being dragged into premature conversations before you have the full picture.
- Map your position by building your balance sheet with what counts, what people commonly miss and test options using the decision-making tools, so you're negotiation-ready.
- Decide your next steps in the right order with a plan that keeps you moving at the pace you need it to be.
Your Strategy Reset Toolkit
Practical tools, templates, checklists and scripts you can fill in, download and keep.
INSIDE, YOU'LL HAVE TOOLS LIKE:
- Spreadsheets to map assets, debts, super, income, and near-term cashflow and children's expenses.
- Range finder and guardrails to test "fair enough" even before you have perfect data.
- Option scoring to compare pathways and a pre-condition checklist so you don't agree to an option that can't actually be executed.
- Messaging and conversation scripts for the micro-moments that stall things, and heat-lowering language to keep it all calm.
Your Completed Reset Plan
A clear summary: Here's where you are, here's what you need, here's what's next, here's what not to agree to yet.
You can use this in direct negotiations with your ex, sharing only what you choose.
You'll use this with your lawyer and show them everything. Lawyers consistently tell me they wish more clients came this prepared.
Warm Referrals to Trusted Professionals
When you're ready and if you need assistance, I can connect you with lawyers, financial advisors, mortgage brokers and valuers in my network who understand your situation and value good preparation.
You'll receive a curated list with context on who they are, what they're good at and why I trust them.
Your Safety Net Check-in Call
A 30-minute check-in call for you to book whenever you need it within 60 days of starting.
MOST PEOPLE USE IT FOR ONE OF THESE MOMENTS:
- After presenting a proposal to troubleshoot your ex's reaction or counter-offer.
- Before seeing a lawyer to prepare your questions and priorities.
- When you're stuck and need help deciding your next move.
- As a confidence boost before an important conversation.
Ready to get moving on your terms?
INVESTMENT
$550
✓ 90-minute Private Reset Session
✓ Strategy Reset Toolkit
✓ Referrals to my network
✓ Your check-in call
Price shown is in AUD and includes GST
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When you complete The Strategy Reset, you will be able to:
Clarify what matters most
You'll look at what's on the table and assess it with a clear head. Identify what's missing, what to confirm and what to ask for. How to cleverly slow down the decisions that shouldn't be rushed.
Present strongly
You'll assess your options and recognise the difference between a reasonable offer and a rushed, incomplete one. Put forward proposals that are persuasive without poking the bear. Set negotiation guardrails so you can respond without reacting and then counter convincingly.
Decide soundly
You'll have clear priorities, clean questions and a steady position. Respond to pressure with language that holds your boundaries. Move forward with the next steps that are solid, organised and right for you.
“I really didn't want to fire this up too quickly with lawyers' letters. This gave me a plan I felt represented me more fully. We got there in the end without having gone too far.”
- JAMES
“Having you and a plan changed everything. I was cool, I was calm and I could assess what was happening and how to respond. Everyone should work with you. It will save them everything!”
- JULIANNA
“Marnie helped me see my situation clearly and gave me the language to assertively present what I needed without feeling like the bad guy.”
- KATHERINE
About me
I'm Marnie Cooper, a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner and AMDRAS Accredited Mediator.
My work is calm, strategic and evidence-led. I help people lower their stress, think clearly and move with a plan so they can get on with life.
I also have a long history of being a negotiator, so I'm going to get you negotiation-ready and in the way I prepare all my family law mediation clients.
And when your situation also needs other expertise, I'll refer you to trusted legal, financial, valuation and therapeutic professionals. You will be well and truly supported.
Join me here and we'll sort this out together.
FAQs
DO I NEED TO COMPLETE THE TOOLKIT BEFORE I MEET WITH YOU?
WILL I KEEP THE TEMPLATES AND SPREADSHEETS?
IS THIS LEGAL ADVICE?
WHAT IF MY SITUATION IS COMPLEX?
WHAT IF I DON'T HAVE ALL MY DOCUMENTS YET?
WHAT IF MY EX FINDS OUT I'M DOING THIS?
HOW DOES THE CHECK-IN CALL WORK?
DO YOU HAVE OTHER QUESTIONS?
You don't have to decide everything today.
But you do need to stop negotiating before you're prepared.
I'm here to help you get moving on your property settlement with clear numbers, calm confidence and a plan that actually works so you protect your financial future.
When you're no longer negotiating from pressure, you're finally free to design a life that reflects your values, not just old compromises.
And if you're unsure where to start? I'm here for a confidential phone call.
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